Marriage is a lifelong commitment. So before you even decide to tie the knot, you better get into a serious discussion with your partner. You shouldn’t just talk about the details of the wedding. There are far more important things to discuss, and talking about them early on helps in having a happy and healthy relationship. Here are 5 things you shouldn’t forget to discuss before getting hitched:
- Talk about the current state of your finances
Money has managed to ruin a lot of marriages already. Don’t let that happen by being open to your partner about your finances. Do you have debts? Do you have savings? Take care of debts as much as you can before entering married life.
- Do you want babies?
Don’t assume right away that your partner wants to have kids. There are people who don’t wish to have children. If the two of you want babies, it’s important to hear each other’s side when it comes to the number of kids and the right time to have them. There’s a chance that you’ll have different thoughts. Getting into a mutual agreement before the big day is important so everything will be smooth sailing later on.
- Who makes the decisions?
Decision making is different when you’re already married. Talk about how you want decision making to be. It’s best to make an agreement and to ensure that decisions will come from both parties. It’s not a good idea to let one make all the decisions while the other merely follows.
- Express your thoughts on sex
Sex is an important part of any marriage. You have to be open to your future spouse about the topic. Share your thoughts on sex and how you want it to be. Not talking about it can result to unsatisfying sex. And in some cases, this is enough to ruin a marriage.
- How to deal with extended families
When you’re married, you won’t be able to spend every holiday at home with your family. Your family wants time, but you have to remember that your spouse’s family wants time too. They may even become demanding. If you don’t handle this situation properly and you fail to divide your time fairly, extended families may end up in conflict. So even before that happens, make sure that both families get enough attention from the two of you.
Couples are typically happy during the first few years of their married lives. However, problems start to surface later on. Issues that are not handled properly ultimately become reasons for the couple to break up. Discussing these 5 things before tying the knot can prevent you and your partner from encountering these issues. And in case they show up, the two of you already know what to do.